Tap Dancing for Belonging and a Game of Intrusive Questions
FEBRUARY 14TH, 2024
EPISODE 29: Tap Dancing for Belonging and a Game of Intrusive Questions
In a world that's rapidly evolving, one aspect remains timeless: the human craving for meaningful connections. But what happens when the hustle of modern life, the echoes of a pandemic, and the complexities of adulthood intertwine, transforming the landscape of friendship?
In this episode, Dr. Scott dives into the heart of the intricate maze of adult bonding with two extraordinary guides; Vanessa Bennett and Dené Logan. Vanessa is a licensed holistic psychologist and bestselling author, using her expertise and depth in Buddhist and yoga psychology to pave the path toward authentic connections. Dené Logan is a marriage and relationship therapist, yoga instructor, and author of the upcoming book, Sovereign Love, where she offers her psychologically informed perspective on reclaiming our true selves in relationships.
Together, they’ll explore the polyamorous nature of friendships, things that make the cake of friendship so rich, and the importance of emotional intimacy. They’ll navigate the nuances of building community in post-COVID times, the art of making and nurturing friendships in new cities, and the pivotal role of shared experiences and memory keepers in solidifying bonds. We'll challenge societal norms that often overshadow friendships, highlighting the gendered nature of close relationships and the empowering concept of Relationship Anarchy.
If you’re ready to redefine friendship and explore its transformative power in your own life - it’s time to make friends with this week’s guests.
Topics We Break Down:
Building a community in a pandemic of loneliness.
Adopting a polyamorous approach to friendship.
Defining reciprocity and intimacy in the context of friendship.
Creating relationship anarchy and deconstructing the heart of what you want and need.
Reframing trauma-bonding and drama-bonding.
Generational ideas of resilience and emotional processing.
Social penetration theory in action through a game of intrusive questions.
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Special Guests
DENÉ LOGAN
Dené Logan is a Marriage and Family Therapist, a group facilitator, and an author based in Los Angeles. In addition to her work with clients in private practice, she is mindfulness coach, a yoga teacher, and specializes in supporting couples in finding more fulfillment in their relationships. Dené utilizes her background in depth psychology to explore how each of us can reclaim the aspects of our authentic selves we’ve been conditioned to turn away from in order to maintain attachments.
Dené is also co-host of the podcast, Cheaper than Therapy. Her first book, Sovereign Love: A Guide to Healing Relationships by Reclaiming the Masculine and Feminine Within, is being released by SoundsTrue in May of 2024.
VANESSA BENNETT
Vanessa Bennett, LMFT is a licensed holistic psychotherapist, clinical entrepreneur, mental health content creator and author of the best-selling relationship book It’s Not Me, It’s You. Her therapeutic approach integrates years of study and practice in Depth, Buddhist, and Yoga Psychology. She co-hosts the Cheaper Than Therapy Podcast, leads soul-based retreats and workshops, and creates and facilitates content for non-profit and corporate training, events, and conferences.
Your Host
DR. SCOTT LYONS
Dr. Scott Lyons is a licensed holistic psychologist, educator and author of the book Addicted to Drama: Healing Dependency on Crisis and Chaos in Yourself and Others, with Hachette publishing. Scott is also the host of The Gently Used Human Podcast, a delightfully depthful and often hilarious exploration of what it is to be human, to have lived life, and come out gently used.
As a renowned body-based trauma expert, Doctor of Osteopathy (Spain) and Mind-Body Medicine specialist, Scott helps people to break free from cycles of pain, limited beliefs, and trauma. Scott is an innovator in transformative wellness and trauma therapy, teaching over half a million people internationally over the past twenty years how to relieve stress and restore vitality. Scott has worked with many of the country’s top leaders and CEOs as an executive coach and wellness consultant.
Scott is the creator of The Embody Lab—the largest online learning platform for body-based trauma therapies—and developer of Somatic Stress Release™, a holistic process of restoring biological resilience, taught in over 20 countries. Scott is also the founder and progressive designer of Omala, a wellness brand dedicated to creating sustainably sourced tools for transformation.
About the Podcast
THE GENTLY USED HUMAN
Dr. Scott Lyons and his world renowned guests take us into the delightfully depthful and often hilarious exploration of what it is to be human, to have lived life, and come out gently used. From passion to pain, glory to defeat, comedy to drama to tragedy, we’ve all been through it. This show unpacks the psychology and humor needed to keep you thriving on the roller coaster of being human.
